I came across this book, which spoke about letting go as a process of forgiving oneself. and honestly I was surprised. It never occurred to me that ‘letting go’ was about forgiveness. I have always associated this concept with forgetting, or burying something in the past, or just not talking about it again, but I have realised that it does not always help. 

I have made mistakes, and recently more often than not in work and in my personal life, and the more this mistake has an impact on you the harder it is to ‘let go’. 

I have tried several times to just forget but it never really worked, and i used to find it harder every day, till i could not understand why it did not happen. I would think, obsess and try and explain and justify it to myself and others till I think probably annoyed everyone around me, and still i could not … until i read this title and it occurred to me that I felt guilty, and i could not forgive myself. 

One of the hardest things to accomplish is self-forgiveness, in fact it is much easier to forgive someone else than yourself, and the main reason why is you know how you are and it’s not someone else’s fault or shortcoming but yourself. 

But the first step is realising it, and knowing that it can pretty much happen again. Perfection as a goal is impossible to attain, and to say never again, well that’s pretty much impossible in itself. The sooner we accept who we are as people, and love ourselves, with all our imperfections, the easier it will be. 

And yes of course we need others to love us for who we are as well. Acceptance by others is a big step in the process, so remove the haters, and know there are people who care.

We all have regrets in life, missed opportunities, wrong decisions etc.
the number of regrets I believe is directly proportional to your level of confidence.
The more confident you are in your choice and decision, the less will you regret.

Sure I have my share of them, I wouldn’t say I’m confident,
but then if I did not make the choices I did,
I would not be where I am now…is this a good thing or bad? well time will tell,
but what I do know is that whatever it may be, I have come far and learned a lot.

My biggest fear has always been of being alone,
growing up I have always surrounded myself with friends and companions,
happy people, happy times
Now I find myself rather ‘stranded’…I don’t know how things changed or where
but it’s life and people move on

So I have come face to face with my fear,
and it’s true what they say you either learn to embrace it
or run away
the choice is not an easy one, and the implementation even harder
there is a certain degree of confidence, security, and self-esteem that is needed
a strong base, strong roots.

but when you survive your trial by fire
you know you can succeed through anything.

The best thing ‘bout tonight’s that we’re not fighting
Could it be that we have been this way before?
I know you don’t think that I am trying
I know you’re wearing thin down to the core

But hold your breath
Because tonight will be the night
That I will fall for you over again
Don’t make me change my mind

Or I won’t live to see another day
I swear it’s true
Because a girl like you is impossible to find
You’re impossible to find

This is not what I intended
I always swore to you I’d never fall apart
You always thought that I was stronger
I may have failed, but I have loved you from the start

So breathe in so deep
Breathe me in, I’m yours to keep
And hold on to your words ‘cause talk is cheap
And remember me tonight when you’re asleep

Because tonight will be the night
That I will fall for you over again
Don’t make me change my mind

1) No Expectations
2) Take each day as it comes
3) Learn, Learn, Learn
4) Don’t wait for happiness, find it in what you do
5) Dont take anything or anyone for granted
6) Do your best in everything, anything less is unfair
7) Only give as much as you expect to get (if not go back to lesson 1)

Steep curves ahead!

bishopia:

Because I love you all (as friends) and I love Game of Thrones, I combined them both into some sweet valentine’s day cards for you to give to your sweetheart or favorite prostitute. Enjoy! Click for big version or get the bigger printable version…

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